Monthly Archives: February 2013

You can never get enough of what you don’t need to make you happy.–Eric Hoffer


Do you ever find yourself chasing happiness? More stuff? More money? More love, acceptance, friends, drugs . . . or whatever?

Yes, we do need these things to some degree. We need a roof over our heads, food in our pantries, and people to love.

Sometimes we think more stuff will make us happy. Whatever that stuff is, whether people or things, it is outside of us. We are looking for something external to fill a hole inside ourselves, to make us complete, to bring happiness.

I would suggest that true happiness cannot be found externally. As the old saying goes, happiness is truly an inside job. You can only fill yourself with yourself. Become a complete person, grounded in the knowledge that you’re all you need. Then all the rest can truly be enjoyed.

Remember, all the stuff is just frosting on the cake. You, my friends, are the cake.

Let’s hear it for cake–with lots if yummy frosting!


Some people are always grumbling . . .

“Some people are always grumbling because roses have thorns; I am thankful that thorns have roses.” Alphonse Karr

So much more elegant than the “glass half empty/half full” saying, isn’t it? Yet it speaks to the same truth.

When I focus on the rose, suddenly the thorns just aren’t that big of a deal. An inconvenience, to be sure, perhaps even dangerous if I stop paying attention. But they are worth the price. The inconvenience. Because . . . oh, the beauty of the rose! The tight-fisted bud, pregnant with fragrance and beauty that is still hidden within the teasing display of outer petals. The joy of watching that bud bloom, slowly, spreading itself to drink in sunlight and dewdrops, and to give its nectar to the flying visitors that stop by for a drink. The heady  fragrance of a fully-opened rose. And the bitter sweetness of watching the rose give its final gift, dropping its petals, to be gathered and used to provide fragrance to a room. Or left to provide nourishment for the soil, so that the next season’s blooms may be just as bountiful.

To think that I would miss all of this if, in a fast cost/benefit analysis, I decided that thorns made the roses more trouble than they are worth!